Resources for Children

MHPG Resources for Children

This list was revised by the MHPG Education Resources Committee, Summer and Fall 2021. Contributors (in alphabetical order): Carrie Eichberg, PhD, Stephanie Lane-Hicks, LPC, Jen Noonan, LPC, Katharine L. Rowny, PsyD

 Please note that the following resources are intended for educational purposes only, and are not a substitute for the advice or guidance of a licensed  healthcare professional. The presence of any particular item on this list does not represent an official endorsement or opinion of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) or the ASRM’s Mental Health Professional Group (MHPG). Links for the online material listed below are periodically reviewed to ensure that the site remains operational.

 

The categories and books below are listed in alphabetical order. An asterisk(*) indicates the book was written by a current or former member of the MHPG. 

 

Egg Donation

 

Celcer, I. (2007). Hope and Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Egg Donation. Graphite Press. Available from www.hopeandwill.net.  (Ages 3-7).

Cirisan, W. (2004). The Very Special Ducklings: A Very Simple Story About Egg Donation.

Donor Conception Network: www.dcnetwork.org/who-are-you/friend-family-member

Donor Conception Network provides education, information, and support for donor conception families.


Grimes, J. (2004). Before You Were Born: Our Wish for a Baby. Available through www.xyandme.com. (Ages 2-6). Targeted to children in single-parent families and includes the following conception histories: donor insemination, IVF with donor sperm, donor egg/donor sperm, or donor embryo, single dad with traditional surrogate, and single dad with donor egg and gestational carrier.


Jover, C. M. (2009). A Tiny Itsy Bitsy Gift of Life: An Egg Donor Story (for boys). Also available in Spanish at www.carmenmartinezjover.com. (Ages 2-6).


Margolis, A. (2006). Butterflies and Magical Wings. Amy Margolis Publishing. Out of print, but sometimes available through www.amazon.com. (Ages 4-8). Written by the mother of two children conceived through a donor egg.



Nadel, C. (2007). Mommy Was Your Tummy Big? Moonkind Press. Written for younger children conceived through egg donation.


Noble, K. (2009).  One More Giraffe. Self-published. 


Stamm, L. (2010 – 2nd edition). Phoebe’s Family: A Story About Egg Donation. Graphite Press.  Written for an older child to read independently, or to be read to a younger child.


Embryo Donation


Celcer, Irene. (2007). Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Embryo Donation. Graphite Press. Available from www.hopeandwill.net. (Ages 3-10).


Donor Conception Network: www.dcnetwork.org/who-are-you/friend-family-member

Donor Conception Network provides education, information, and support for donor conception families.



Donor Conception Network. (2002). Our Story - for children conceived through double or embryo donation. Available at www.dcnetwork.org or http://www.infertilitynetwork.org/.


Kluger-Bell, K. (2013). The Pea That Was Me: An Embryo Donation Story. Createspace Independent Publishing. 

General Third Party Reproduction 


Assisted Reproductive Technology: Books for Children http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com/

This blog was created in 2009 by research librarian Patricia Sarles to help parents and assisted reproduction professionals find children’s picture books. This comprehensive and up-to-date list of books provides information on the subject matter covered, the targeted age range for each book, the language(s) it is published in, and where the book can be purchased.


*Gordon, E. (2011). Mommy, Did I Grow in Your Tummy? Where Some Babies Come From.  E.M. Greenburg Press, Inc. (Ages 4-10). Also includes adoption.


Grimes, J. (2004). Before You Were Born: Our Wish for a Baby. Available through www.xyandme.com. (Ages 2-6). Targeted to children in single-parent families and includes the following conception histories: donor insemination, IVF with donor sperm, donor egg/donor sperm, or donor embryo, single dad with traditional surrogate, and single dad with donor egg and gestational carrier


Parr, T. (2010).  The Family Book. Little, Brown & Co. (Ages 3-6).

LGBTQ Family Building

Baxter, N. (2003). Our Story. Donor Conception Network. Available through www.dcnetwork.org. (Ages 3-6). A guide to donor insemination for young children, with one version about having lesbian parents.


*Bergman, K. (2019). You Began as a Wish. This book helps parents tell the story of donor conception and/or surrogacy to their children with simple, easy to understand language. 



Considine, K. (2005). Emma and Meesha My Boy: A Two Mom Story. twomombooks.com Stamm, L. (2016). Family Stew: Two moms use a sperm donor to build their family. (Ages 7+).



Donor Conception Network: www.dcnetwork.org/who-are-you/friend-family-member

Donor Conception Network provides education, information, and support for donor conception families.


Gottlieb, A. (2003). Sons Talk about Their Gay Fathers: Life Curves. Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies, Routledge Publishers.



Grimes, J. (2004). Before You Were Born …Our Wish for a Baby: A Baby Conceived for Female Partners. X, Y, and Me Books. Available at www.xyandme.com.



Howey, N., & Samuels, E. (Eds.) (2000). Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Parents. Stonewall Inn Editions.



 Jover, C. M. (2009). The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt: A Gay Parenting Story. Also Available in Spanish at www.carmenmartinezjover.com. (Ages 4-8).



Lewis-Long, C. (2011). Why I’m So Special: A Book About Surrogacy With Two Daddies. AuthorHouse. (Ages 2-5).



Nelson, F., & Barone, B.J., & Donsky, D. (2016). Milo’s Adventure: A Story About Love.  CreateSpace. Tells the story of two dads having a child. 



Newman, L., & Thompson, C. (2009). Mommy, Mama, and Me. Tricycle Press.

Oelschlager, V., &  Blanc, M. (2011). A Tale of Two Mommies. Vanita Books.



Oelschlager, V., Blackwood, K., & Blanc, M. (2013). A Tale of Two Daddies. Vanita Books.

Panzini, L., & Newman, L., & Souza, D. (2000). Heather Has Two Mommies. Alyson Publications.



Panzing, L., & Kramer, F. (2012). Some people have two Dads. CreateSpace Publishing.

Polacco, P. (2009). In our Mother’s House. Philomel Publishing.


Rella, T. (2010). Daddy and Pop. CreateSpace Publishing.



Rella, T. (2010). Mom, Mama, and Me...And How I Came To Be! CreateSpace Publishing.

Richardson, J., & Parnell, P. (2005). And Tango Makes Three. Simon and Schuster.



Snow, J. (2004). How it Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: A Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages.  Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies, Routledge Publishers.



Tompkins, C., & Evans, L. (2009). Oh the Things Mommies Do: What Could Be Better than Having Two?  Self Published.



Valentine, J. (2004). One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dad, Blue Dads. Alyson Books.



Valentine, J. (2004). The Duke Who Outlawed Jelly Beans. Alyson Books.


Miscarriage, Fetal Anomaly & Termination


Blanford, C. & Childers, P. (2008). Something Happened: A Book for Children and Parents Who Have Experienced Pregnancy Loss. Self-published.


Schwiebert, P. (2003). We Were Going to Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead. Grief Works.



Non-English Language 

https://www.amazon.com/Books-Carmen-Martinez-Jover/s?rh=n:283155,p_27:Carmen+Martinez+Jover 

Spanish - http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com/search/label/spanish?m=1 

Single Parenting

Clay, G & A. (2008). Why Don’t I Have a Daddy? AuthorHouse. (Ages 2-7).


Donor Conception Network: www.dcnetwork.org/who-are-you/friend-family-member

Donor Conception Network provides education, information, and support for donor conception families.


Donor Conception Network. (2002). Our Story - for children conceived through sperm donation into single parent families. Available at www.dcnetwork.org or http://www.infertilitynetwork.org. (Ages 2-6).

 

Grimes, J. (2003). Before you were born... Our wish for a baby. X, Y, and me Books. www.XYandMe.com

Hanson, W. (2005). Raising you alone. Tristan Publishing. (Ages 3-7).


*Kluger-Bell, K. (2012). The Pea That Was Me: A Single Mom’s Sperm Donation Story. Createspace Independent Publishing. 


*Kluger-Bell, K. (2016). The Pea That Was Me: A Single Mom’s Egg and Sperm Donation Story. Createspace Independent Publishing. 


Levin, B. (2008). Just the Baby for Me. (Ages 2-6).

 

Moffett, J. & Warren, L. & J. (1999). Do I have a daddy? A story about a single parent child.


Rella, T. (2012). Mom and Me…the Way It Should Be. Guess Who? Multimedia. Available at http://guesswhomultimedia.com/bookstore.html or http://www.lovemakesafamilybooks.com/

 

Sherwin, A. (2009). The Adventures of Princess Mommy. 13th Moon Press. (Ages 4-12).


Simon, N. (2000). All families are special. (For children Kindergarten-grade 3).


Sperm Donation


Celcer, Irene. (2007). Hope and Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Sperm Donation. Graphite Press. Available from www.hopeandwill.net. (Ages 3-7).


Donor Conception Network: www.dcnetwork.org/who-are-you/friend-family-member

Donor Conception Network provides education, information, and support for donor conception families.


Donor Conception Network. (2002). Our Story. Published by Donor Conception Network. (Available at www.dcnetwork.org or http://www.infertilitynetwork.org/). Three versions of the book include children who were conceived by sperm donation to (1) heterosexual parents, (2) single parents, or (3) lesbian families.



*Kluger-Bell, K. (2013). The Pea That Was Me: A Sperm Donation Story. Createspace Independent Publishing. 


Levin, Barbara Sue. (2008). Just the Baby for Me. Self-published. Written for younger and older children about one woman’s decision to become a mother with help from anonymous sperm donation.


Nadel, Caroline. (2007). Daddy, Was Mommy’s Tummy Big? Moonkind Press. Written for younger children conceived through sperm donation.


Surrogacy


Celcer, I. (2007). Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Surrogacy. Graphite Press. Available from www.hopeandwill.net. (Ages 3-10).


*Eichberg, C. (2017). Building My Family: A Story of Egg Donation and Surrogacy. BookBaby. This book is aimed at heterosexual couples wanting to explain to their children their birth story.  It is for children born through both surrogacy and egg donation.



LaMothe, S., & Rella, T.. (2011). Surrogacy Helps Make a Family Grow! Self- published. Written for younger and older children of gestational carriers.


Lewis-Long, C. (2010). Why I’m So Special: A Book About Surrogacy. AuthorHouse. (Ages 2-5). 


Pellet, S.P. (2006). The Kangaroo Pouch: A Story About Surrogacy for Young Children. Trafford Publishing. A book about surrogacy appropriate for children of surrogate or intended parents.


Stamm, L. (2016) Harry the Helper: A family uses a gestational carrier to have another baby. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform. Harry the Helper is a book for children explaining how a carrier can help a couple who is experiencing secondary infertility tell their story to their child.  



Summer, M. (2010). Mom and Dad and the Journey They Had! CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform. For children conceived with the help of an oocyte donor and gestational carrier.